What a mother told her son a day before his wedding.

Mummy's boy , you are now a man. Tomorrow you
will have a new mother , a new cook and a new
person to share all your secrets with . It will no
longer be me but her . Love your new mum even
more than you love me . Before you walk into her
arms forever , let me give you some words to guide
you.
There was a day i was arguing with your father we
Were screaming , tempers were high . I was angry
and he was angry then i called him an idiot ! He was
shocked . He looked at me asking how dare i call him
that , immediately i Started calling him idiot , fool,
stupid , crazy. I called him all sort of name, guess
what he did ? He didn't raise his hands to hit me , he
just walked away bang the door as he went out.
My Son, If your father had hit me and destroyed my
eyes, how will you feel sitting here with me today?
How will you regard him as your father? Would you
have been proud of him or would you be blaming me
for calling him names? Never hit your wife! No
matter the provocation just walk away and things will
be normal. Whenever she offends you, think of this
story I just told you, it could have been your mum!
Before I forget, after he left, I was filled with guilt. We
slept on same bed that night and I went to him the
next day. I pleaded with him, I did all I could to show
am sorry and he forgave me. That day I cooked his
favourite food, yes you know he loves Affang soup
right? After that day, I never called him names, my
respect for him was ten times stronger.
There is something very important you must always
do, my son listen very carefully, defend your wife.
When she is under pressure, stand by her. If your
friends hates her, it is your duty to make them see
her as a Queen. Your Uncle, I mean Uncle Udeme
never liked me. But your father was always
supportive until his perception changed.
There was a day your Father was going to host the
owner of his company and friends. They were three
of them. That day I was in the kitchen cooking for
them and your father went to buy drinks. When the
table was set and food was served. Everyone started
eating. Then I remembered I did not add salt in the
food. I was embarrassed. Your father tasted the food
and looked at me. He immediately turned to the
guests. He told them that he instructed his wife last
month not to add salt whenever she is cooking
because of some problem with his body. He said it in
a funny way and everyone laughed! The guests
understood and he asked me to bring salt and
everyone added according to their taste. He managed
to eat the food without salt. After the guest left, he
went on his knees and asked God to forgive him for
lying.
Your wife is like a baby, sometimes she don’t know
what to say or do. Stand up and speak for her!
Now let me talk to you about sex. You see sex is a
wonderful thing. Do not be surprised if your wife
enjoy and need sex more than you do. There were
days, I needed sex more than your father and there
were days he needed it more than me but the
important thing is to always try to satisfy the other
when they need you. Don’t always think of your self
There was a time things were hard and I needed to
do two jobs to support your father. One night I was
so tired. When I got to bed he was in the mood. He
try to make love to me and I didn’t refuse him. I was
tired but I felt I needed to be there when he need me.
When he tried undressing me, he saw my look and he
stopped. He asked what was wrong and I said
nothing. But he understand me better. He stopped
and then started telling me stories until I fell asleep.
My son, Sex is best enjoyed when the two parties are
physically and mentally ready for it. Sometimes, read
your wife and understand her.
Make it a habit to go anywhere with your wife. Beside
your job, move around with her. If anyone invite you
to his house and told you not to come with your wife
then be very careful. Use wisdom.
I know you love mummy… I know you tell me all your
problems. But now things will be different.
Let your wife be the first to know me. Let her
be the first to see before me.
When you have problems with her don’t run to me
immediately. Wait for a day to pass and then talk to
her about it. Pray about it.
Finally, don’t forget to come and visit you me with
your wife very month!
I know you will have a happy home. You will always
be mummy’s boy.
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